The F Word

By Annelise Ball

You and I both know one of the worst F words in the English language…

BUT

Do you know the F word that’s much worse?!

If you don’t…lucky you’re reading this blog!  Changing careers or starting your own business requires a thorough examination of this word.   You’ve got to understand how ‘it’ affects you.  You need to realise much it just loves to sabotage all your dreams and goals.

So, what is this nasty, no-good word?

The word is…

FEAR

Yep, that’s it.

Here’s how I see it…

Fear gets in everyone’s way.  We do all sorts of crazy, destructive things…often unconsciously…to avoid it.  I know it myself; my own fears nearly stopped me from doing exactly what I loved.

See, ever since I was ten years old, I wanted to be a journalist.  I was great at English.  I loved to write. So, when I finished high school and got good enough marks to go to university, did I apply for a place in a journalism course?

No.

Why?

I was too scared!

People would say things like ‘so many people want to be journalists, but they never make it.’  Or, ‘heaps of people do journalism degrees then can’t get jobs’.  Or ‘you have to be pretty good to do that’.

I foolishly believed it all!

So instead, I enrolled in a Bachelor of Arts.  I was barely conscious of it at the time, but my rationale was ‘at least I’ll learn stuff that’ll help me be a journalist…one day…maybe’.   A teacher of mine even organised work experience for me at Channel Ten.    After two weeks hanging out with the news crew and on the set of Good Morning Australia with Bert, I was still too scared to take the initiative and do anything about it.

I’m sure youth and immaturity played their own part, but in all honesty, I just didn’t have the guts or self-belief at the time.   I was terribly afraid of failure.  So, I took what I believed was the easier option.  I spent ten years studying and working in social work, only to later realise it was the wrong choice.

Enough about me.  Let’s talk about you!

What are you afraid of?  Is it

  • Total failure at something you really want to try?
  • Major embarrassment at exposing yourself as just-no-damn- good?
  • Losing everything:  money, relationships, security?
  • Success?  Too scared to really live your wildest dreams?

These questions can be mind-blowing if you really take the time to explore them.  It’s completely in your best interests to discover the things which really hold you back.  You’ll on benefit from being really honest with yourself about your fears.

 Imagine – ‘what would you do if you weren’t afraid of ANYTHING and had ALL the cash you needed?’ 

 Would you be?

  • A successful, thriving business owner with plenty of time for a fulfilling personal life?
  • A dedicated artist with total belief in his talents and ability to succeed?
  • A satisfied professional who knows she can easily get the perfect job anywhere she goes?
  • A student brimming with confidence and self-belief?

What would it take to get you there?  What’s really stopping you?  What do you need to admit to yourself before it’s too late?

If you’re anything like me, you’ll soon find the price of fear is terribly high.  The price I paid was spending ten years in the wrong career – one that took a serious emotional and financial toll on my life.

Think about it. Find the courage.  Face your fears.

It’s crucial.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.  

Marianne Williamson